Am I Still the Same Person After Becoming a Father?
Maybe you used to say yes easily. A weekend away. Drinks after work. A new job in another city. Staying up until 01:00 because something was interesting enough to keep going. Now you calculate. Who...
Why Do I Miss My Old Life Even Though I Love Being a Dad?
You would choose your children again. You know that. You love who they are. You love being their father. You may even feel that life gained a depth or meaning that did not exist in quite the same w...
Feel Like You've Lost Yourself After Having Kids?
Maybe you used to be the funny one. Not because you consciously decided humour was part of your identity. You just spent enough time around friends who brought that side of you out. Maybe you were ...
Don't Feel Like Yourself Since Becoming a Dad?
You love your children. You would not trade them for your old life. And still, every now and then, you catch yourself wondering: Where did I go? Perhaps nothing dramatic has happened. You go to w...
What If the Life I Wanted Before Children Doesn't Fit Anymore?
Maybe you had a plan. Not necessarily written down. But you knew roughly where things were going. A certain career. A business. More travel. A particular house. Living somewhere else. Training seri...
How Do I Grow Without Constantly Trying to Improve Myself?
You notice you have less patience with your children. Something to work on. You are not sleeping enough. Improve the routine. Your partner says you are distracted. Be more present. You have stopped...
Do Dads Need Hobbies or Something That's Their Own?
Maybe you used to have things. Cycling. Gaming. Football. Making music. Fishing. Working on cars. Going to gigs. Photography. Seeing friends. Reading for hours without checking the time. Then life ...
What If I Don't Know What I Want Anymore?
Imagine somebody gives you a free Saturday. No work. No children to look after. Nothing urgent at home. Nobody needs you anywhere. What would you actually like to do? Perhaps you know immediately...
How Do I Build a Life That Still Feels Like Mine?
You may have built a life that works. The children are cared for. Work gets done. Bills are paid. The house functions. There are appointments, routines, birthdays, school messages, groceries, laund...
What Does Being a Good Enough Father Actually Mean?
You can have a good morning with your children and still lose your patience at dinner. You can be deeply involved in family life and still miss something important your partner has been trying to t...
Why Do Other Dads Seem to Have It More Together Than I Do?
You see him at school drop-off. He looks awake. He has already trained. He chats calmly with his child instead of repeating put your coat on six times. Later you find out he has a demanding job too...
Why Do I Feel Like I Should Handle Fatherhood Better?
Maybe nothing dramatic happened. You came home tired. One child refused dinner. The other needed something while you were trying to sort the first problem. Your phone buzzed with something from wor...
How Do I Know What I Actually Need?
Something feels off. You are more irritable than usual. You keep thinking about having a day to yourself. Work feels harder to tolerate. You have less patience with the children. You do not particu...
Why Do I Feel Guilty Doing Something for Myself?
You finally go. Maybe it is the gym. A bike ride. Dinner with friends. An afternoon doing something you have wanted to return to for months. You were looking forward to it. Then, somewhere between ...
Why Is It So Hard to Make Room for My Own Needs as a Father?
You are tired. Not I should probably go to bed a little earlier tired. You have been running low for weeks. But your child needs something. Work is busy. Your partner is tired too. The house does n...
How Do I Make Space for Myself Without Pulling Away From My Family?
You want to start playing football again. Tuesday evenings. Nothing extreme. A couple of hours doing something you used to love. Then you look at Tuesday. Dinner. Two tired children. Bath. Bedtime....
Why Does Everything Feel Like It's About Work or Family Now?
You wake up. Get everyone moving. Go to work. Come home. Sort dinner. Help with bedtime. Answer something you forgot during the day. Prepare for tomorrow. Sit down. Scroll for a while because start...
Who Am I Becoming as a Father?
At some point, you may look at yourself and realise that fatherhood changed more than your schedule. You make different decisions. Different things worry you. Some ambitions still matter. Others do...